Weekend Update

It turns out that I didn't need to worry about how to let The Boy Next Door down easy. I received this email from him a few days ago:



Not really sure.... but i think the chapter is closed on me.

wasn't really expecting it ..but yeah we clicked.....sandiegoGirl4me
...the names have been change to protect the innocent

it's a multi-layer beyond belief kind of thing

even the hardest part is already met....the

"he's so cool mom" blessing

so Juliette...i may be writing the book first
because i might have the ending!


Since I had resolved never to mention this blog to anyone I'm dating ever again, I decided I'd tell them that I'm writing a book on dating which they could read some day after I get it published. This is pretty funny though, because in no way was he ever going to be a chapter. I halfway wondered if this was a strategy to get me to beg him for another chance. Maybe if he got to meet my kids they would think he was cool too?  I wrote him back and wished him luck and told him to keep me posted. I mean, multi-layer beyond belief sounds pretty special, right?

Meanwhile, bicycle man and I clicked in a very good way. We met for dinner at my favorite fish restaurant and it turns out it's his favorite one too. He's good friends with a man whom I met and really liked at a party with Farm Boy last summer, and yes, he knows Farm Boy too. They used to work together 10 or 12 years ago, and that's just one of the many ways our lives intersect. Not exactly multi-layer beyond belief, but we talked so easily and had so much fun that there was no awkwardness at the end of the evening. He immediately asked me out again and I accepted, and then he texted me from work a few times during the week to say he was thinking about me. Oh, and he gave the best hugs I've ever had on a first date. The man is just the right height and build for me and knows how to use it. Seriously,  the best time I've had in ages.

 After I got home, I noticed his facebook profile said "separated, " and made a mental note to find out more, especially since his dating profile said "divorced."  Date #2 was lunch and a walk at the beach, and it was then that I learned all the details about Bicycle Man that would bring him down from his pedestal. The fact is, despite all of his pros, this man has more cons than I am able to deal with right now.  Although his profile insists that he's ready for a long-term relationship, he hasn't yet filed for divorce from his wife. He is enmeshed in a huge legal and financial battle with her where the house they have jointly owned for 20 years is about to be foreclosed on by the bank. I counted 10 out of 30 sentences which he began with "My wife and I..." so he is still clearly involved with her, whether on friendly terms or not. Also, he moved out of the house he shared with the wife into his newly-divorced female massage therapist's house just three months ago, and admitted that he's infatuated with the masseuse, although she refuses to get involved with him. As we were talking, he observed that he has been in back-to-back relationships since the age of 16 with no breaks between women, and admitted that maybe it is time for him to be on his own for a while after all. I had to agree, and that was that. But he is still a nice man who rents a house with 3 other roommates in the same age range who like to throw fun parties, so I will remain friends with him and go to these parties, because you just never know whom you might meet.

Mr. Clean and I are arranging a meeting in a few days, and another guy is writing. I suspect that we will be meeting in the near future as well. No word from Jersey Boy or the Sexual Healer and that's a good thing.