I had no idea that there was such a thing until I saw this link, which pretty much sums it up (especially the part about losing readers), but sometimes life happens and you're so busy living that you just can't write about it. Even though this is a dating blog, 2010 has been all about simply living with no stress about meeting potential partners. It was a shocking and somewhat painful thought at first, but somehow I've even been able to accept the idea that I could very well stay single from this point on - that I may never have another lover, partner, or husband again in this lifetime. As strange as it may seem, I have learned to be OK with the the possibility that I might have already experienced all of the relationships allotted to me by the powers that be. Since last Christmas, I've been on a quest to carefully observe what is happening in my life, and to pay attention to who I am and what is going on in the now. I decided I'd like to learn some new things and take some solo trips, and so I've enjoyed a few adventures on my own. In the process, I've really been able to slow down, look around, and appreciate things one day at a time. What a difference it has made! I've been able to open my mind and heart to all sorts of new people and ideas while becoming more comfortable in my own skin. As I am still slowly learning to enjoy things by myself, I have gained a new appreciation and gratitude for all of the men I've loved before, no matter how long our relationships lasted or how poorly they ended. I now know that I learned a lot from each and every one of them, and I wouldn't change any of those times even if I could.
I am thankful for all of the love I've had in my life.
3 comments:
Well I know when I take time for myself between relationships is when I grow the most.
I don't think I've lost any readers, but I've definitely slowed down in blogging. Life has just gotten busier and in a good way. We replace the unreal with the real.
Yes, I agree on both counts. I have grown emotionally by not having to focus on a partner. You'd think I would have much more time to write because of being single but it's quite the opposite.
Hi Juliette,
I've never read anyone's blog before, but I just happened upon yours. I have bookmarked it and plan on reading through it (the Romeo one). You just sound like a gal after my own heart. I know because I guffawed loudly several times while skimming your stuff. Best wishes to you and please don't take your blog down! I'm in my '50's too (51) and not currently dating as I got burned online most recently. That's how I came to your blog! Man, looks like you had a LOT of dates! It's a little hard for me to wrap my head around the idea that someone as witty and funny as you is still single, but maybe I'll find out what's "wrong" with you when I read your blog, LOL. Or maybe you expect too much? Or maybe, I have to realize that even (especially?) smart, witty, funny, creative women end up alone? I don't know, but looking forward to finding out! Can't wait to read about your dates bit by bit. Stay strong, girl! And thanks for making me laugh!
Laura in Seattle
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