9/18/10
Go Pickles...
And this is why I don't do any more online dating. The internet has become a place for people who want the end result, not the romance. For me, the process of getting to know each other is absent when dating men from the internet. Courtship is now substituted by a few pages of canned questions and a couple of pictures. I've had men tell me "It's all in my profile" when, during conversation on dates, I'll ask a question about their lives. Men seem to prefer this process of not having to talk about themselves. For women, especially those who are more comfortable with communication and who require the give and take of conversation, it is a losing proposition. At least for me, anyway. After giving online dating one last try, I am officially over it.
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Haha. I mean, the video is sort of witty. But you know, the paradigm of all the online dating stuff is Young Folk, and my 57 dates were with men in their 60s (2 age 58, and maybe 6 in their 70s, the rest 60s). It's really different when you're both Old. I'm not saying you should go back to it...I'm just sayin.'
Well, maybe the men in NYC have more manners than here in southern CA. I mean, they are not all as rude as this guy, but they do understand the bottom line and they are not afraid to express it. I always sense an attitude from online guys that no matter how great they think I am, there is always the possibility of someone better on the next date.
It's not funny any longer, that video! and what it portends.
I'm a regular 62 year old male who has not participated in or been tempted to join an online dating service.
I ride bicycle with local people in a club and meet women who are active in that fashion, or who spend some time in a nearby fitness program. There is one lady I've been talking with for almost three years and we respect each other, like each other for our humor and our good sense, and eventually went privately to an upscale restaurant a couple of times, and to a local bar for a drink once. There was never a cheesburger or a front seat visit.
I guess what I'm trying to say is flirtation and eye contact and genuine conversation wins the game (for me). Romance is everything, however long the unfolding.
I shudder to imagine most men being accurately viewed as low-brow cretins, or worse.
I appreciate your opinion, Possum. With your positive outlook on dating, it is evident that you have never been a part of online matchmaking. You are fortunate enough to have a place where you can interact with the opposite sex in real life. Also, being male, you have the advantage of being the gender who does the asking out. Things have changed these days for the 20-and-30-somethings, but in the over 50 group, women usually have to wait to be asked. Wish me luck as I try to get myself out there in between working full time and my other activities which are not filled with single men my age.
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