If only it were that easy!
I'm back from a great vacation in Hawaii, only to take another vacation - from meeting men online. After my last date, #47, the Fly Fisherman (don't ask), I concluded that I need to meet a few men in real life before I go back to the world of sight-unseen men with too many expectations. My last date was really into my pictures and my voice on the phone, but by the time we met in person, I wasn't that into him at all (his picture was outdated and he had a pronounced limp for someone as athletic as he advertised himself to be). I have had enough of the phony profile tidbits that try to convince me to get interested in men who haven't been at all interesting in person. I want to know if a man looks good to me up front before I have to sit through an hour of coffee or (worse) an awkward meal before I can get on with my life.
So, this summer I am focused on getting out and doing things I love - joining a sailing club, taking guitar lessons, and yes, even a singles' cruise, in order to meet someone and get the chemistry thing resolved first before we get to know each other's personalities.
Even if I don't meet the man of my dreams, I'll at least be doing things I want to do instead of sitting around coffee shops and bars on first dates all summer long.
6 comments:
hilarious video, juliette!
sounds like a wonderful summer ahead: but will you blog about it?? i want your summer to be wonderful for your readers also.
I will definitely be blogging, providing that I am dating. So far I haven't met any real live guys I feel are worth dating, but stay tuned!
I think you'll do a lot better in real life. My better dates always come from women I meet instead of online dating. It takes a little getting use to, but then boom it happens. Although as a guy and a asker I don't have any suggestions for your end besides always be open.
Yes, I suppose I'll have to become a little more aware and then be assertive and quick when my radar goes off. Thanks for the advice. There's always the speed-dating route too, but I'm limited there because they have way fewer events for people over 50. I guess they figure that people don't like to go out much in their old age!
Hi Juliette, I hope you don't mind me asking you this as I am brand new to online dating. Can the girls or women wink at or otherwise contact the guys first? or does that seem pushy or forward?? I would value your experienced advice on this one. Thanks!
Hi Kasey,
Lots of women I know contact men first online. It all depends on what you are comfortable with. I never found it necessary to do so because I usually averaged 3 or 4 men contacting me per week. And of course I'm on a vacation from dating now, so I'm trying to meet men the old-fashioned way, which means flirting and talking to them in person. So far no dates have resulted from this, but I'm enjoying the change of venue.
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