This was the absolute worst first meeting I've ever had and the shortest rendezvous ever in my history of dates.
Ladies, let me just reiterate one of the basic rules of dating: if a man calls to postpone or modify your already-scheduled date in any way, just call the whole thing off. And PLEASE remind me of this rule the next time I try to be nice, because Every. Single. Time. I let it happen, it turns out worse than bad!
This date was no exception to the beyond bad experience. Lifeguard called me on Sunday to reschedule our meeting twice, because of a football game! That should have been a huge red flag. But he did offer to take me out to lunch as a consolation, so I agreed, knowing how important that game seemed to be to everyone in town but me.
At least he showed up on time on the appointed date, and he did look look exactly like his picture - very tall, and sort of a cross between Tom Hanks and Vince Vaughn. But he was totally uninterested in trying to impress me or keep me engaged in pleasantries. In fact, he didn't even try to keep the conversation going except when it involved himself or the Hawaiian Islands. I couldn't decide if he was just nervous or trying to be cool.
Finally, after 30 minutes of this, he asked, "Can I get you a cup of coffee?"
????? WTF...Uh, no...you asked me out for lunch...or did you forget about promising to make it up to me, etc., etc.?????
But what I said to him was, "No, actually, it's been nice chatting, but I have errands to run", at which he practically jumped up out of his seat with exuberance and more energy than I'd elicited from him yet on the date from hell. He walked me quickly to my car with a wave goodbye. Not even a handshake to seal the deal.
Oh well, we really had no future together anyway. As it turns out, he's not moving back here after all. He's been interviewing women for a date on NYE before he goes back home, where he doesn't even own a piece of paradise. It seems to me that he is trying to recreate his unfulfilled 20-year-old fantasy of surfing every day and renting a studio apartment on the beach in Hawaii. Aloha and good riddance. Hope that dream works out for him.
5 comments:
Hey you were better off without lunch since it would have only prolonged your suffering.
My feelings exactly. I would never even consider enduring that kind of douchiness just for a free meal. Not only that, but he's the kind of guy who would make you pay for your own food even though he invited you!
"douchiness" LMAO I have to remember that.
i can't believe he waited 30 min before asking you if you wanted something (and of course it should have been *something to eat*, not drink). i actually followed your new rule -- if he tries to reschedule the first date, Forget Him -- twice this past fall. in both cases it felt right and was. Good rule. Definitely.
Thanks Mimi,
Now if I can just follow my own rule, I might avoid this kind of date in the future...
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